ok a tangent about cock size

I've been going through craigslist a lot out of bordem and just to see who and what's out there. GUYS LISTEN THE FUCK UP THIS IS IMPORTANT! The word "HUNG" is so over used. Just because you have a penis and it hangs does not mean you are hung. What is with all these guys posting pictures of a little tiny penis or even an average one and saying they're hung? I mean I'm not a size queen but that's like calista flockheart saying she's chesty because she has nipples. Wake the fuck up people seriously. I mean to each their own but the average dick size according to google is like 5- 5ish inches so by that assumption lets say if you're under at least 7 inches you have no right to say you're hung. Also if you're face looks like bill clinton and your body looks like rosie o donnel you are not hot or sexy. What is with the hideous fatty mc fattersons saying I'm hot and hung when they weigh about the same as a vw bug and are as equipt as a mosquito. Seriously people stop embarassing yourself and for fucks sake STOP BREEDING! God Damn cretins! I like money... do you like sex AND money? idiots lol

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Feeling better can prevent getting sick!

Physics 101: "A body in motion stays in motion."

* Enjoying the outdoors

* Spending more time with friends,
nurture and cherish your relationships.
Share yourself; open up, expand and include.
Invest in your relationships: give to others,
and allow others to contribute to you.

* Doing more of the things that make you feel good,
perhaps watching funny movies and receiving regular massages

* Practicing yoga and relaxation every day,
even if it's only for five (5) minutes

* Becoming responsible for everything in your life;
Stop complaining, hating, carrying grudges

* Eating mindfully and sensibly. Always sit down when eating and
enjoy every single bite to the fullest. Remember what we eat
shows up in the body and changes our brain chemistry.

* Have and create more fun for yourself and others
around you. Value your friends.
Regularly set aside some time to be with them.

* Eat and drink more of what is good for you,
foods that are freshly cooked. Lots of fruits, vegetables.
Plenty of water (not too cold) before breakfast and between meals.

* Learn to forgive. Forgiveness is freeing.
It allows you to release the past and live in the now.
It is the ultimate gift you can give yourself.

* Learn to communicate with your body;
it does not speak English!
It communicates in feelings and sensations.
Be attentive to your body.
When you feel discomfort, find the cause and fix it.

* Follow your heart, your gut feeling
your body can take care of you, be nice to it.

Ohm

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Don't make someone a priority if they only make you an option

"Don't make someone a priority if they only make you an option..."

The Dash

THE DASH

IN MEMORY OF SWEET "J"

JENNIFER L. RECORD



I READ OF A GIRL WHO STOOD TO SPEEK AT THE FUNERAL OF HER FRIEND.SHE REFERRED TO THE DATES ON HER TOMBSTONE FROM THE BEGINNING... TO THE END. SHE NOTED THE FIRST DATE WAS THE ONE OF HER BIRTH, & SHE SPOKE OF THE SECOND WITH TEARS. BUT WHAT SHE SAID MATTERED THE MOST OF ALL WAS "THE DASH" BETWEEN THOSE YEARS.

FOR "THE DASH" REPRESENTS ALL THE TIME THAT SHE SPENT ALIVE ON EARTH. AND NOW ONLY THOSE WHO LOVED HER KNOW WHAT THAT LITTLE LINE IS WORTH. FOR IT MATTERS NOT HOW MUCH WE OWN ... THE CARS, THE HOUSE, THE CASH. WHAT MATTERS IS... HOW WE LIVE & LOVE AND HOW WE SPEND "OUR DASH".

SO THINK LONG & HARD... ARE THERE THINGS YOU'D LIKE TO CHANGE???

FOR YOU NEVER KNOW HOW MUCH TIME IS LEFT. YOU COULD BE IN "THE DASH" END RANGE!

IF WE COULD SLOW DOWN ENOUGH TO CONSIDER WHAT'S TRUE & WHAT'S REAL, & ALWAYS TRY TO UNDERSTAND THE WAY THAT OTHER PEOPLE FEEL & BE LESS QUICK TO ANGER & SHOW APPRECIATION MORE, & LOVE THE PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES, LIKE WE'VE NEVER LOVED BEFOR.

IF WE TREAT EACH OTHER WITH RESPECT , & MORE OFTEN WEAR A SMILE. -REMEMBER THAT THIS SPECIAL "DASH" MIGHT ONLY LAST A LITTLE WHILE.

SO WHEN AT LAST THE TIME HAS COME FOR YOUR LIFE'S ACTIONS TO REHASH,

WILL YOU BE PLEASED WITH THE THINGS THEY SAY ABOUT THE WAY YOU SPENT

-"YOUR DASH"?

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Change

from: "The Doctor's Opinion"

"Men and women drink essentially because they like the effect produced by alcohol. The sensation is so elusive that, while they admit it is injurious, they cannot after a time differentiate the true from the false. To them, their alcoholic life seems the only normal one. They are restless, irritable and discontented, unless they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks - drinks which they see others taking with impunity.... Unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery."

Do you want me to tell you something really subversive?

"Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it ... It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for ... and the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more." - Erica Jong

Discussion

Be the change!

Why is it that certain behaviors deemed tolerable in adults are suddenly shocking when exhibited by children? This 90-second public service announcement by a nonprofit organization in Australia begs this very question–prompting any adult who watches to reconsider their responsibility to any child, and to one another.

Be the Change!

Out of Control Male Ego

Dr. Phil - Out of Control Male Ego - May 7, 2008 Part 1


Dr. Phil - Out of Control Male Ego - May 7, 2008 Part 2


Dr. Phil - Out of Control Male Ego - May 7, 2008 Part 3


Dr. Phil - Out of Control Male Ego - May 7, 2008 Part 4


Dr. Phil - Out of Control Male Ego - May 7, 2008 Part 5

Create Your Life Story

Mahatma Ghandi once said: "My life is my message."

So, what's your message?

And is it your truth?

When you choose a path that is honourable and true to your self as well as others, your life story begins in earnest.


Your life becomes a message - an inspiration to others.


Your message can change the world for the better. You can inspire one person or change the lives of many.


Even the smallest change can make a difference.


As long as truth runs throughout your story, you will always be on the right path.


Even if that path becomes difficult at times, you will know in your heart that the journey is the right one.


Life is an adventure and the journey is the reward.


So, what adventure are you going to have?

Remember ... you have a choice. You always have a choice.


So start creating your life story.


Remember, you can be the hero of your story ... you can save the world and even have time for romance!

Make sure your story has an inspiring message running through it.


And think on ... every good story has a happy ending!

Cheers to the best day ever!

--Robert Tew from www.livelifehappy.com

Stay true to yourself

When you stop living your life for yourself and start living it as two meshed into one you are only doing a disservice to yourself and to the one you love.

When you stop doing the things you love, going places you love to go and hanging around people you've always loved-you are taking pieces of you away that one day you may find hard to get back. And you will want them back.

Love someone. Love them for who they are. If they love you for who you are-great. If you try and change each other-change interests, friends, hobbies, style, beliefs-If you try and chain one another to the other every day, not allowing them to grow and explore this world at times alone and free-you will only have regrets.

One day that person will not be in your life. Could be tomorrow, next week, next year...could be 40 years from now. But one day they will not be there. You will awake one day to find you are indeed alone. That you have spent "x" amount of time losing yourself just to please another...and now that other is gone. You will regret not doing things you wished to had done, giving up people you loved, giving up a piece of you that made you who you were.

it is better to be alone, then to be loved for what you are not.

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Ways to Make Saving a Habit

by Andrea Coombes

What's your excuse? When it comes to the sorry state of our finances, we've all got one.

Maybe your raise at work never materialized, or you charged that unexpected car-repair bill -- or that plasma TV -- to your credit card. Whatever the reason, for many of us, personal balance sheets could look better. Half of U.S. workers report less than $25,000 in savings.

Even if you've saved more, is it enough to sustain you through a decades-long retirement?

Sure, plenty of consumers now are easing back on spending, thanks to sticker shock at the grocery store and gas station. But soon enough retailers and restaurants will be pushing hard-to-resist "recession deals" -- will you be able to restrain yourself? And, what happens to your budget-minded ways when the economy recovers?

It's time to shake off the "consumer" mantle that politicians and economists are so happy to drape around our shoulders. Resist their calls for consumers to save the economy, and resist the advertisements enveloping us in the idea that we need more and more things.

The only thing most of us need more of is financial security. A lot more.

How to get there? Think thrift. For some, it's a familiar idea. For others, thrift implies denial and deprivation, and that makes for a tough call-to-arms.

So, how to save money without scrimping, be thrifty without feeling miserly -- and maintain those habits after our economy picks up speed?

It won't be easy. Expect discomfort, says Kathleen Gurney, a psychologist and chief executive of Financial Psychology Corp. Keep going, even when it's uncomfortable -- the rewards are worth it, and once this economic slowdown ends, you'll have financial habits in place to support you for a lifetime.

1. Spend less time feeling poor. Flipping through catalogs and going to the mall will make you feel like you need things, Ms. Gurney notes. Sure, you can afford some of that stuff, but the main message is: Most of this is out of your reach. Instead, do things that offer a sense of well-being. Invite friends over. Walk in the park.

2. Retrain your brain. Depriving ourselves of current pleasure is nigh impossible if we're not driven by a sense that the future will be more fulfilling, says Ms. Gurney. When you start to feel that "I'm deserving so I'm buying" feeling, visualize a smaller credit-card bill or higher savings-account balance.

3. Look around you. Are you happy with what your hard-earned dollars bought? If not, shift your spending to those things that bring greater long-term satisfaction, including retirement savings.

4. Choose your extravagances. Here's mine: I eat out about once a week. An extravagance I do without: Cable television.

5. Assess weaknesses. "If you were thrifty, how would you look different?" says Gary Buffone, a financial psychologist in Jacksonville, Fla. Identify what you want to change; then shoot for specific targets, such as a six-month hold on buying new tech gadgets.

6. Make trade-offs. Substitute small, free pleasures for those that cost. Have a movie night at home with friends -- you'd be surprised how many people are equally eager to cut costs.

7. Set goals. Meet weekly with family to discuss the spending plan (don't call it a budget) for the months and years ahead. This may involve tough choices, such as forsaking a family vacation. But think of the guilt-free trip you can take after saving the necessary cash. Good memories last longer, Ms. Gurney notes, when not trammeled by large credit-card bills.

8. Resist your children. They're going to find it hard to change their expectations. How can you help? Stand firm. The next time they clamor for the latest videogame, remind them of the bigger prize (that family vacation), and tell them their choices here and now are, say, a picnic or a movie rental. Offer options, but don't give in to their push for more consumer goods.

9. Enlist other people. Many people are reticent to talk about money worries, but almost everyone has them, so open up and tap your allies. Hold a contest with friends to see who can save the most in a month, or agree with your spouse to talk before spending more than $100, Mr. Buffone suggests.

10. Post yourself by putting post-it notes on your wallet, mirror or steering wheel with the mantra of your choosing: "I want to go to Hawaii in January." "I want to pay off credit-card debt."

11. Automate it. Divert money monthly from your checking account to savings. It will force you to budget, based on what's left in your checking account.

12. Rethink rewards. What are some of your happiest memories? Those are the true rewards. Next time you're about to buy something because you deserve it, ask yourself whether there isn't something you deserve more, such as time at home cooking with your teenager, or a stroll with your husband or best friend.

"We've been conditioned to think that spending the money on clothes, at a restaurant, is going to be the reward," Ms. Gurney says. "But what is the ultimate reward that we want from working hard, in the end?"

Source: http://finance.yahoo.com/banking-budgeting/article/105041/Ways-to-

You can't build a reputation on what you're going to do

"You can't build a reputation on what you're going to do."

--Henry Ford

How to Keep Men from Missing the Toilet

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In the Schiphol Airport in Amsterdam, the men’s urinals have a unique feature … one that could easily be used in your own bathroom, if necessary!

Someday

Someday you`re gonna realize
One day you`ll see this though my eyes
By then I won`t even be there
I`ll be happy somewhere
Even if I cared
I know you don`t really see my worth
You think you`re the last guy on earth
Well I`ve got news for you
I know I`m not that strong
But it won`t take long
Won`t take long

Someday someone`s gonna love me
The way I wanted you to need me
Someday someone`s gonna take your place
One day I`ll forget about you
You'll see i won't even miss you
Someday, someday

Right now I know you can tell
I`m down and I`m not doing well
But one day these tears they will all run dry
I won`t have to cry, sweet goodbye

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Activating Your Success Mechanism

written by Brian Tracy

One point that all motivational teachers agree upon is that every peak-performing man or woman is an obsessive goal setter. They are motivated by compelling, burning, internal goals. Our subconscious mind goes to work immediately on goals we write out and think about continuously to make them a reality. Why then do so few people have goals? Studies indicate that only about 1 percent of the total population has written goals. (Unless a goal has been written out, it is merely just a wish.)

A study at Yale University in 1953 asked this question: "Do you have clear goals? Have you written them down and laid out some method of achieving them?" Only 3 percent of the graduating class had specific written goals! In 1973, 20 years later, those members of the 1953 class were surveyed to follow up on their past performance. It was found that the 3 percent who had written goals were worth more, in financial terms, than the remaining 97 percent!

No other quality, such as environment, appearance, grade level or family background, is nearly as important to personal success as the habit of personal goal-setting. It is intense goal-orientation that marks the winners in every single area. Unless we have goals, we simply go around in circles in our lives. We go nowhere. When we set goals, we go straight and true. We develop purpose, we develop direction, we develop focused and channeled energy. We develop more in a short time with goals that we could accomplish in years without them. Every human being has a failure mechanism and a success mechanism. The failure mechanism is on automatically. When we set a goal, we push the success mechanism. When we are preoccupied by a burning desire to accomplish our goal, we are moving toward success. Most people are not aware of this. And even those who are, often lack the self discipline, the will, self confidence to set goals and stick with them until they accomplish them.

The characteristic that sets high achievers apart from the average person is "intensity of purpose." Bunker Hunt, who was bankrupt at age 32 and worth approximately $5 billion when he died in the late 70's said, "to be successful you must first decide what you want in life. Next you must determine how much you are willing to pay to achieve it. You must resolve to pay that price and to make the sacrifices required to reach your goals. That's all that is necessary."

Why is it that so few people set goals? First, not many people understand how important it is. Those who come from families who set goals usually pick up the habit of setting goals themselves. Second, they often don't know how. It is sad but true that we can receive 12 to 18 years of education through our schools but not receive one hour of time dedicated to teach us how to set goals. Most school teachers are not goal setters themselves. Elementary school students who have been exposed to goal-setting techniques enjoy school more, score consistently higher than their counterparts and have a better attitude toward parents, teachers and life in general than those who do not receive instruction in goal setting.

Third, they have a fear of rejection brought on by destructive criticism. Due to human nature, friends and relatives tend to discourage us when we tell them about our goals. For this reason, keep your goals confidential. Share them only with others whom you respect and who are also in the habit of setting goals. They will be encouraging. Other than that one exception, don't tell anyone so you do not put yourself in a position to be criticized or discouraged from your goals.

Fourth, they have a fear of failure. This is the greatest block to success in adult life. People do not realize the importance of failure in achievement. It is impossible to achieve without failure! We can never reach our true potential without experiencing numerous failures in our lives. Thomas Edison found 10,000 ways that a light bulb would not work before he hit on the right combination. The natural tendency is to stay in our comfort zones. The nature of human beings is to become satisfied and complacent with their surroundings and to try nothing more. Every single peak-performing man or woman has thrown off the natural tendency to play it safe and stay within the comfort zone and has tried to exceed past performance They have gone into the risk zone to try something bigger, better and more important. Every important achievement ever made has been accomplished by men and women who have had the courage to take the risk, to step out even though they had no guarantee they would succeed. Life is somewhat like a baseball game--three strikes and your out. But in life you are not only the batter you are also the umpire. If you stand at the plate long enough you will hit a home run. No one can call you out but yourself.

With regards to goal-setting, almost everyone is afraid of change. This is because we are afraid that change will make us worse off than before. The reason we set goals is to enable us to control change in our lives, we can see to it that the change will be an improvement rather than causing us to be worse off than we were before. We must set goals in order to be in control of our lives, and we must be in control of our lives before we can feel good about ourselves.

With regard to goal-setting, there are two to three general concepts. One of these is the "area of excellence." This merely means that we are all usually average in most areas of our lives, but we all have the ability to be outstanding in at least one area. Every single person is put on this earth for a unique purpose. Nobody is put here at random. We all have something special and valuable to contribute to the human race. One of our major responsibilities as human beings is to find our area of excellence and to become as good as we possibly can be at developing our area of excellence. As we must make a living for the rest of our lives, we have an obligation to develop to the best of our ability at least one marketable skill.

It is amazing to find that most people work 20 to 30 years at a job without realizing that they should become experts at what they do if they do if they wish to receive the awards life has to offer. Instead, many go through their entire careers frustrated and complaining, expecting government or their employers to provide them with the material things they were unable to earn for themselves. They were paid lower wages because they did not develop their skills to the degree that they deserved more.

Most people do what they do in a mediocre fashion, never realizing how important it is that they become outstanding at something. One reason this is so important is job security. The top 20 percent in any field are always guaranteed a job. More important is the fact that how we feel about ourselves determines how well we do everything in life. It determines our level of health, our personal relationships, our creativity, our peace of mind. If a person does not develop excellence at something, then that person gets up every morning and sees someone who is mediocre at everything. It is impossible to like ourselves when we realize we are not trying to excel in some area of our lives. In establishing our goals, one goal must be to find one area of excellence and become the best we can be in that endeavor.

"You can only become excellent doing what you love to do." One of our prime responsibilities as adults is to find what we like to do and spend the time and effort to do it very well. You can tell what you like to do by looking at what interests you, what attracts your attention. Look at the kind of things you would do if you were not getting paid to do them, the sort of things you would do if you had no limitations on your abilities.

The second concept is called the "acres of diamonds" concept. This is based on a story about a farmer who sold his farm to go in search of diamonds. After many years of futile searching, he died broken and unhappy. Meanwhile, the person who brought his farm found some rough, mud-caked rocks that glittered when they were chipped. It turned out the entire farm was covered with a fortune of rough diamonds. The moral of the story is that the farmer who sold his farm never realized that diamonds don't look like diamonds until they are cut polished and set. We must realize that our major opportunities come to us disguised as rough diamonds. We must see them for what they are. It is through our efforts, dedication and ambition that we develop beautiful diamonds from the rough rocks others ignore.

When you set goals, don't think you must move or go back to school for 5 years to get a degree. Opportunities, like the diamonds, are close at hand. You need only to recognize them.

We must have a balance of goals to have a balanced life. The major categories of goals include: Family and personal goals--these are the reasons we set goals; business and career goals; self improvement goals. Successful people are always working on themselves to become better people. Goals must be in harmony with each other. We cannot want to spend half our time on the beach and still wish to become wealthy and successful in business. We must also set goals which are congruent with our fundamental values.

Ask yourself the following questions. The answers may give you acute insight into what your major goals should be.

1. What are the five things you value most in life?
2. In 30 seconds or less, write down the three most important goals in your life right now.
3. What would you do if you won $1 million in the lottery tomorrow? What changes would you make in your life?
4. What would you do if you had no physical or mental limitations. What would be your ambition, your dream?
5. How would you spend your time if you knew you had only six months to live? What would you do with your life? What changes would you make? The answer to this question will tell you what your values are.
6. What have you always wanted to do but have been afraid to try? Remember, it is the fear of failure that is preventing you from doing what you have always wanted to do.
7. In looking back over all the things you have done in your life, what things have given you the greatest feelings of importance and mental well-being? What has added to your highest self esteem? The answers to this question will give you the answer to where your field of excellence lies.
8. If you had a magic bottle with a genie in it who would grant you one wish, what one great thing would you desire? If you could accomplish any one great goal, what would it be? What one great thing would you dare to dream if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt you absolutely could not fail?

This is one of the most important question because if you can write it down on paper, you are capable of attaining it. Nature is not capricious. It does not give us the ability to clearly visualize and write down a goal without also giving us the ability to realize it. The only questions are: How badly do you want it? And, are you willing to pay the price to get it? The only limitation is in your own mind. It is not contained in physical reality.

After answering these questions, it is essential that you pick one major purpose in life. We know that all great success starts with one great, major purpose. If we choose to work on too many goals simultaneously, we diffuse our efforts and end up accomplishing almost nothing. Every great life only becomes great when the individual picks only one thing as the major goal and devotes all of his or her energy to making that goal a reality. Usually all of the minor goals are also accomplished. If you have not set and achieved goals before, it is important to understand that each time you achieve a predetermined goal, it is easier to accomplish the next goal. This is because you gain confidence in your own abilities with each victory. The stronger you believe, the more likely you are to succeed.

The first step in any goal setting is desire. Desire is always personal. You can never successfully desire something for someone else. Your goal must be purely personal and selfish, something you want very much.

Second is belief. Your goals must be believable so that you must strongly believe they are attainable before they will become reality. They must be realistic. If your conscious mind will not accept the goal, there is no way your subconscious will believe it and go to work on it.

For example, if you are earning $20,000 a year today, raise your sights in 50 percent increments. That is, say I make $30,000 a year. Then visualize, believe and use self-affirmation to reach your goal. This will improve your performance, your communication skills and open up your mind so you will do your job better or see new opportunities that are open to you. Your goals should have about a 50-50 chance of achievement. This means they are believable and the subconscious mind can go to work on them. Once you have reached a point of success, you can reaffirm and work on the remaining portion of the achievement of the goal. For instance, say you would like to lose 40 pounds. Instead of setting 40 pounds as your goal, visualize yourself five or ten pounds lighter. Goals are reached one step at a time. When you have lost 10 pounds, set your goal to lose another 10 pounds.

Make your goals challenging and let them make you stretch. Each of your goals should be for the next level of attainment. Striving for our goals takes us out of our comfort zone and causes us to grow with each accomplishment. Make them difficult enough to be challenging but believable enough to be attainable.

Write down your goals. This is the way you program your goal into the subconscious It is very important to accomplishing goals. The more detailed and precise you write it down the better. Write exactly how you would like it to happen.

For example, if you want a new house, you would not merely say, "I want a 3,000 square foot house." You would instead describe the house as you want it to be, as you picture it. "I want a three bedroom, split-level house with...etc." Until a goal is written down on paper, it is not a goal, it is a wish.

Determine how you will benefit by achieving your goal. Write out all the benefits and advantages you will receive upon achieving your goal. If your goal is financial, then write out all the differences it will make in your life when you attain your goal. The more reasons you can have for reaching the goal, the more irresistible the goal will become for you. You will develop a force, a power and a conviction that makes you virtually unstoppable in reaching your goal.

Analyze your position. Where are you right now in regard to your goal? If your goal is financial, how much more money will you need to reach your goal? Do an exact financial analysis of how much you are worth today.

Set a deadline. Set a time when you expect to reach your goal. Your major purpose in life should always be measurable specific and quantifiable. You should be able to count it and measure it so you always know how close you are to accomplishing it. The feeling of being a winner is an important part of being a winner. We can only feel like a winner when we are working towards an important goal. "Happiness is the progressive realization of a worthy goal or idea." Unless we can measure the beginning, the end, and the steps in between, we will lose the motivational power that lies in a major definite purpose.

Identify the obstacles you will have to overcome to reach your goal. If there are no obstacles, it is no goal; it is merely an activity. Once you have written the obstacles down on paper, you will find they do not seem as large as they did. There is usually only one or two things that will take much of your attention. The rest will seem insignificant.

Clearly identify the groups, people and organizations whose assistance you will need in order to reach your goal. This introduces three laws. The first law is the law of sowing and reaping, or the law of return. You only reap from having sown in previous periods. What you are reaping today is a result of what you have sown in the past. The law of return says the more you put in, the more you will get out, and you need to put in to get anything out. Second is the law of compensation. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Realizing this, in regards to the people whose assistance you need to succeed, we ask ourselves, "what can we do for them in order to get the assistance we need?" Third is the law of service. We can only succeed by serving our fellowman by providing goods and services that are of value to them. All successful men and women have begun by finding ways they can serve others. They have determined to go the extra mile and always do more than they are paid for. The starting point of all riches is to find out how you can give, how you can serve others to get in return what you want. Successful companies have an obsession with customer service.

Make a plan. Take all the details you have identified in the last three steps. Make it complete in every detail. Write out all the activities you will have to engage in to reach your goal. Once you have identified your activities, prioritize them in order of importance. All plans are merely activities laid out in terms of time and priorities.

Once you have committed your plan to paper, continually go back to it and rewrite it until it is the perfect plan. As you acquire new information, have new experiences, receive feedback and begin to move forward and have setbacks and disappointments and make mistakes, look at the plan and see where it has to be revised. All high-achievers think and write on paper. They do it over and over again. They plan their days, they plan their weeks and they plan their months. That is why they move ahead so rapidly.

Get a clear mental image of your goal as though it was already in existence right now. Every time you get a chance, play that picture of your goal on the screen of your mind.

Back your plan with determination and resolve to never, never give up. The best plan on earth will not work unless you do. Many people do all of the steps properly until they reach step 12. At the first sign of a problem, they give up. Persistence is very important to success. No matter how perfect your plan or how pure your heart, every person who has set out to do something out of the ordinary has suffered setback after setback before they found success. They have faced adversity and disappointment. The difference between the winners and the losers is that the winners pick themselves up and keep on trying while the losers whine "why me?" Remember this: "Self discipline is persistence in action." You can see how much self-discipline you have by how much persistence you have at working toward your goal. "Your persistence is your measure of faith in yourself."

You can tell how much faith you have in yourself by how willing you are to pick yourself up after a bitter disappointment. If you are willing to pick yourself up, there is literally nothing that can stop you!

Practice effective time management. All high-achievers use their time well. Every minute, hour or day that comes and goes is lost to us forever. If we do not use it well, we have lost an opportunity to move closer to our goal. There are six key points toward effective time management. First, have clearly defined goals. We waste allot of time when we only have vague, or worse yet, no idea of what we wish to accomplish. Second, have clear, detailed plans. We would never buy a list of materials and give it to a contractor and say "build me a house." He would ask, "where are the plans?" It is just as foolish to try to build a successful life without laying out a plan of what we wish to accomplish and what it will look like once we have reached our goals.

Make a list for each day. Lay out your list on Saturday for the upcoming week. Then make a list at the end of each day so your subconscious can work on it overnight. When you start off your day, refuse to do anything not on the list. Discipline yourself to write every new assignment down on the list. You will find that once you write it down, it does not seem as important as your first thought. If you do not use a list, you will find yourself responding to the urgent, rather than doing the important. You become preoccupied with trivia.

Two important things happen when you use a list. First, you will become organized and achieve more each day. Second, you will get a feeling of accomplishment as you check off each activity you have completed. You will feel you are on top of your life and in control. Without a list, at the end of the day, you will feel like you have been spinning your wheels and have accomplished very little. You will feel stressed out because you will feel you have made no real gains toward your goal. At the end of the day, transfer the things that you didn't get to that day to your list for the next day. You will find that by using a list you will sleep better at night because you know that your work is under control and down on paper. You will not have to worry about forgetting something important.

Set priorities on your list. The 80-20 rule says "80% of the value of any list is contained in 20% of activities." For example, if you have 10 items on your list, 80% of the value of what you wish to achieve today will be in about two of the ten items. Concentrate on those items first. This is the most efficient use of your time. Ask yourself regularly, "What is the most valuable use of my time right now?" You always must make a choice between one activity or another. Before you choose, ask yourself the question. All high-achievers know, "there is never enough time to do everything, but there is always time to do the most important things." Ask yourself, "if I had to go out of town tomorrow and only had time to do one thing, What one thing would I do?" Put a circle around that--that will set your priority.

Use concentration and single handling. Successful people do first things first, and they stay with them until they are complete. It is important to find blocks of time that are devoted to handling your top priority without interruption. Otherwise you will pick up and set down a project four or five times, thereby taking too much time to accomplish it.

Develop a sense of urgency. Do it now! Don't procrastinate! Less than 2 percent of the people in our society have a sense of urgency. Less than 2 percent of the people will do a thing the first time it comes up--98 percent of the people put off even minor tasks for another time. The best way to stand out from your peers and make your superiors stand up and take notice is to do a task as soon as possible. Bosses always go to the person who gets it done now. They pay them more, and they respect those employees more than those who put it off until next week.

Remember, "Obstacles are what you see when you take your mind off your goal." Your mind can only hold one thought at a time--positive or negative--and your goal is a positive thought. Always think about your goal. It is impossible to be troubled by petty little problems when you are concentrating on your goal. You will feel alive and full of energy when you keep your goal in mind. When others tell you about their goals, encourage them to "go for it." Everyone should have goals in order to be happy. As you accomplish your goal, set new goals. Goals are what make life worth living.

6 Tips for Landing Your Dream Job

Do you have a job that's just like everyone else's? Are you looking for a 9-to-5, but wish you weren't? Do you wish there was another option, one that would lead to an exciting, unique, and fulfilling line of work?

I recently interviewed more than 100 people who currently hold their dream jobs as research for a new book called "How'd You Score That Gig?" These individuals, who are travel journalists, event planners, fashion designers, forensic scientists, interior decorators, Internet business owners and more, have one thing in common -- persistence.

As unattainable as a dream job might sound, with the right amount of forethought and preparation, you can make the move as well. Following are six tips to get you started.

1. Learn about yourself.

Take time to do a self-assessment of your values, how you like to work, and what you'd be compelled to do even if you never got paid. Research careers and industries that map to your skills and interests. Hit the Internet, set up informational interviews, take relevant coursework, and arrange to go onsite at a company in your chosen field.

2. Don't be deterred by a lack of experience.

In developing a resume and other promotional materials for the field you want to pursue, think about how your current skills and talents apply to the responsibilities you'll hold in the new job. For example, knowledge of project management, client relations, information technology, and sales will take you far in most types of careers.

3. Ease into a new career one foot at a time.

Perhaps this means earning a paycheck at your current job while doing a part-time internship in your new field, or taking an adult education class or workshop on the weekend. The only way to find out if you're passionate about something is to try it -- ideally with as little risk as you can manage.

4. Remember that any progress is good progress.

Even confident people stay in unsatisfying jobs because they feel safe, and because they're afraid of making a bad decision. But in the quest to uncover a source of meaningful work, though, your worst enemy is inertia. Make an effort to do one thing, like emailing a networking contact or attending an event -- that moves you a bit closer to your big-picture goal.

5. Start early.

Twenty- and thirty-somethings have more flexibility when it comes to test-driving different careers. The process of self-discovery is much easier when you're unencumbered by family responsibilities and substantial financial burdens, and when you haven't yet reached a level in a career where it's tougher to turn back. That said, it's never too late to pursue your passion. More and more baby boomers are leaving the world of traditional employment for alternative career paths that will fulfill them well into retirement age.

6. Have realistic expectations.

Even if you're lucky enough to hold your dream job, there's no such thing as the perfect work situation. Every job has its ups and downs, and aspects we love and aspects we don't love. And "dream job" doesn't mean "cushy job." As your mom always told you, anything worth having in this world requires some effort. There will be some days you feel like shutting the alarm off and going back to sleep, but many more where you feel more energized by the prospect of work than you ever thought possible!

Source: http://hotjobs.yahoo.com/career-articles-6_tips_for_landing_your_dream_job-373

Sit by the water and listen

Sit by the water and listen
i will tell you..
The deep parts of my life pour onward,
as if the river shores were opening out.
It seems that things are more like me now,
that I can see farther into paintings.
I feel closer to what language can’t reach.
With my sense, as with birds, I climb
into the windy heaven, out of the oak,
and in the ponds broken off from the sky
my feeling sinks, as if standing on fishes.

- Rainer Maria Rilke


Source: http://sfbay.craigslist.org/pen/mis/641560681.html

The Man In The Glass

By Dale Wimbrow 1895-1954

When you get what you want in your struggle for self, The Guy in the Glass
And the world makes you King for a day,
Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that guy has to say.



For it isn’t your Father, or Mother, or Wife,
Who judgement upon you must pass.


The feller whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the guy staring back from the glass.



He’s the feller to please, never mind all the rest,
For he’s with you clear up to the end,
And you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the guy in the glass is your friend.



You may be like Jack Horner and “chisel” a plum,
And think you’re a wonderful guy,
But the man in the glass says you’re only a bum
If you can’t look him straight in the eye.



You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you’ve cheated the guy in the glass.

What gets us into trouble is not what we don't know.

"What gets us into trouble is not what we don't know.
It's what we know for sure that just ain't so."

--Mark Twain

Death is not the ultimate tragedy in life

"Hope, faith, love, humor, and a strong will to live offer no promise of immortality,

only proof of our uniqueness as human beings and the opportunity to experience

full growth even under the grimmest circumstances. Far more real than the ticking
of time is the way we open up the minutes and invest them with meaning. Death is
not the ultimate tragedy in life. The ultimate tragedy is to die without discovering

the possibilities of full growth."

--Norman Cousins, Good Housekeeping, Nov. 1989, p. 92

Who Do You Love?

L O V E -- L O V E -- L O V E -- L O V E -- LOVE 4 SELF?

--Who do you love?

--I mean, who do you really love?

Your mom, perhaps. Your dad. Maybe your dog. A sibling. Your friends. A partner. Your children.

Our lives are filled with important relationships.

Yet it never ceases to amaze me how many people completely ignore the most important relationship of all. The relationship with the one person guaranteed to be with them for the rest of their lives.

THEMSELVES!

That includes "ME", by the way... I forget my inner-relationship all the time because I'm too caught up in helping others. And the inner-turbulence I experience from that could shake a baby to death.

budda said: "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection."

So, why not consciously make the decision today to simply give yourself some love and affection - for absolutely no reason at all?

Literally no reason. Just do it because it's a smart thing to do.

Sit down - and for ten minutes or so, praise yourself, be nice to yourself, let go of "attachments" to arguments and issues.

Stop beating yourself up for being such a bad person. Stop slapping yourself every time you do that thing wrong again.

Just give yourself some love, some approval, some affection - simply because you can.

Let me tell you something.

I've made some crazy decisions in my life just because I haven't loved myself enough. Decisions that have literally changed my entire path, simply because I didn't care enough about this one most important relationship.

It's said: "If I am not for myself, who will be?"

Make the decision to be your own biggest fan, starting today.

And take time out to really give yourself the love and approval needed to make that happen.

Just for fun.

Try it out. And see what happens.

"I never loved another person the way I loved myself." - Mae West

Remember, to start your day off right by loving yourself and giving yourself the biggest hug (Just don't molest yourself). Hope this helps.

Cheers to the best day of your life.

--Rob (of www.livelifehappy.com)

Always be honest with what you expect in others

The following personal ad is for a man essentially looking for a slave. While I could not be happy in this kind of one-way relationship, I have to give him kudos for being 100% honest with his expectations.

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Looking for my life partner. - 32
Reply to: pers-582116966@craigslist.org
Date: 2008-02-21, 2:48PM PST


Here are my rules, if you can deal with them then please send me your picture and we will take it from there.

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for my return.

This is a way of letting me know that you have be thinking about me and are concerned about my needs.
I am hungry when i get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when i arrives.

Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. I have just been with a lot of work-weary people.
Be a little happy and a little more interesting for me.

My boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before i arrive. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for me to unwind by.

I will feel i have reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to my comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

Minimize all noise. At the time of my arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet (When we have some).

Be happy to see me.
Greet me with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please me.
Listen to me. You may have a dozen important things to tell me, but the moment of my arrival is not the time.

Let me talk first - remember, my topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Don't greet me with complaints and problems.
Don't complain if i am late for dinner or even if i stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what i might have gone through at work.

Make me comfortable. Have me lean back in a comfortable chair or lie me down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for me.
Arrange my pillow and offer to take off my shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

Don't ask me questions about my actions or question my judgment or integrity. Remember, i am the master of the house and as such will always exercise my will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question me.

A good wife always knows her place.

Found at: http://lasvegas.craigslist.org/m4w/582116966.html

Is this you ? ? ? ? ?

What a real man would do....

• Grab her neck when you kiss her, it's a real turn on. Not her butt/boobs.

• Stay on the phone with her even if shes not saying anything.

• When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go then kiss her

• When she says she's ok dont believe it talk with her

• Never cheat on her because 10 yrs later she'll remember you

• Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her

• Call her before you sleep and after you wake up

• Treat her like a person and not something to show off for

• Tease her and let her tease you back.

• Stay up all night with her when she's sick.

• Watch her favorite movie with her.


• TRUST HER WITH HER GUY FRIENDS

• Let her wear your clothes.

• When she's bored and sad, hang out with her.

• Let her know she's important.

• Kiss her in the pouring rain.

• When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is; "Who's ass am I kicking babe?"

Found at: http://sacramento.craigslist.org/mis/580087129.html

An open letter to the dumbass who punched my window.

Reply to: pers-567842156@craigslist.org
Date: 2008-02-08, 7:23PM PST

Dear ignorant ass,

You will remember me as the guy in the white ford f-250 today. You were driving a rather sketchy looking honda with a ICP sticker in the backwindow. I was behind you at the light.

Now, let me start with the fact that I exercise extreme patience. Really, I do try to not get frazzled in certain situations.


Traffic light turns green. You don't go. I don't know what you were doing... smoking a joint, jerking off, beating your wife, I don't really care. But whatever it was caused you not to take your foot off the large pedal, and put it on the long skinny one on the right.

I went by my 5 second rule. That means I gave you five seconds, then, and not in an obnoxious way, (more like a Wiley Coyote vs. Roadrunner sort of way) I honked my horn 2x.

Meep Meep.

Now. Maybe you had a bad day, maybe you were high, maybe you are an enviromental activist who couldn't stand me driving a diesel powered automobile. I don't know, and once again, I don't care.

You, being for some reason very irritated, careened out of your car, slammed the door, and charged my truck. Spikey haircut, cut-off tee, worn out shorts and all, you charge directly to my side window.

You weren't armed. So I just sat there, window up, with a look of, well, not surprise, but confusion. Really? Are you that pissed I honked at you?

You screamed, cursed, and spit on my window. You now, obviously upset that I have not accepted your invitation to fisti-cuffs, nor rolled down my window, proceed to punch said window...

It didn't break. Duh. You watch too much TV. I'll bet it hurt like a bitch though.

I will stop here for a sidenote. Remember that I said you were not armed? I therefore did not classify you as a viable threat at the time.

See, the entire time you were pulling your shit-fit, my right hand was crossed over my waist, my 9mm Beretta was already drawn, round chambered, safety off, just sitting there, aimed through my armrest, at you. Less than a foot away.

Had you made a move for your pocket, obtained something from your car that could be used as a weapon, or actually gotten through that window, you most likely would not have made it to where you were going in very good shape.

Ever see a 9mm round go through a door? I have. Several times. I'm the guy who gives classes to teach other guys how to kill people. Doors don't stop bullets,,, no, they just slow them down, cause them to tumble, therefore tearing into your flesh with the glass and power window parts from the door.

I can draw from the holster and put a round on target in under a second. By my calculations, I could have reloaded twice (that's all the magazines I had). That means I could have dumped 45 Rounds into you... all before the light went red again.

But I am a patient man.

I actually like people, and value life.

So, I say to you dumbshit... be thankfull I wasn't having the kind of day you were having.

And, thankfully for you, you smartened up, and went back to your car, had you not, I would have exited said truck, pistol whipped your bitch ass, and beat you like you owe me money.

TO YOU, AND ALL DUMBSHITS LIKE THIS... I WARN YOU... THIS IS NEVADA, NOT CALIFORNIA, MOST OF US HAVE GUNS, AND THANKS TO NICE, LIBERAL LAWS, THE SMARTER OF US AREN'T AFRAID TO USE THE.

GROW THE FUCK UP AND ACT LIKE ADULTS, SO YOUR FAMILY WON'T TRY TO SUE ME LATER ON WHEN I MAKE A WIDOW OF YOUR WIFE.

Peace out.

Found at: http://lasvegas.craigslist.org/rnr/567842156.html

A LADY Wouldn't Do That... - m4w - 24

Reply to: pers-565613072@craigslist.org
Date: 2008-02-06, 8:23PM PST

I met you at a dance bar in Hollywood on Friday night. You were dressed much classier than the other girls there, yet you stood out as much more attractive. You were shying off to the side talking to a guy that was clearly not your man. It didn’t stop me from (cordially) asking if he was your guy anyways (after he had walked away). You told me he was your neighbor and we proceeded to chat.

We hit it off pretty well. We were laughing and chatting and you were giving me a big genuine smile, the kind you cannot fake. (You have an amazing smile by the way.) I didn’t feel slightly used buying you a drink.

We were only chatting for about 20 minutes when you said you had to go because your ride was leaving. You gave me your number and away you went...

I called you Sunday night and you gave me a warm greeting and we small-talked for a few minutes. I said I was thinking about checking out this comedy club on Thursday night and asked if you’d care to join me. You did not hesitate before saying “Yeah, I’m totally down!” (Great!) I was heading out to meet some friends but I told you I would get a hold of you with the show time, etc. and we would work out the details then.

The next day, I bought a pair of tickets to the show. I called you to work out the details of the date, but you disappeared. Didn’t return my voicemail or text...

Why would you do this? I don’t care if you aren’t interested in me, but I do care about my time, money and effort. Would it have been so hard to say “no”? Now I have tickets to a show and no date... thanks. There are numerous ways of rejecting me that would have been more straightforward way than you chose. For future reference, here are some of those options:

1) You could’ve said “no” when I asked if I could get your number or pretend like you didn’t hear me ask.
2) You could’ve given me a fake number which I would’ve figured out when I tried to call you.
3) You could’ve not picked up your phone and never called me back. Like any guy with a clue, I would’ve only tried once.
4) You could’ve said “no” when I asked you out.
5) You could’ve given me an obvious excuse when I asked you out, (like ‘I have to wash my hair that night’) I can take a hint...
6) Even if you wanted to be nice, you could’ve told me that you already had plans for that night but you would call me back when you had some free time. Any guy would know that you have no intentions of calling back.

If you read this and have any defense for your actions, please, I would really like to hear it. I’d also like to hear if any other women out there can explain this phenomenon, because this is not the first time that I’ve seen a woman pull this trick. And if there’s any cute (straightforward) women out there who would like to accompany me to a comedy show tomorrow night (my treat!), also feel free to drop me a line.

Found at: http://losangeles.craigslist.org/lac/mis/565613072.html

The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.

"The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself."

-- Benjamin Franklin

Choices

We all live a small life
Much decisions on our shoulders
Some a burden while some for fun
But not friendship
No, not at all
Come let me take you into a fantasy
A dream like one you’ve never seen
Just close your eyes and listen to me

Can you hear the Lark?
Can you hear the Cuckoo?
Can your hear the Nightingale sing?
A melancholy song
Of a story not so long
For the sands of time to bring

Listen carefully my dear
For there is a lesson to be learnt
Don’t judge so soon
You may be wrong
And hurt yourself in return

It was a bright bright day
Silence
Not a sound to be heard
No noise made
All were present
Man, beast and bird
No one moved
They simply stood and watched

Then came a far, far off cry
Of pain of hurt
And a sob and a sigh
For all watched a tortured soul
Tormented hurt and die.

There he was on his knees
Begging, pleading
For those who he took as his friends
Used him, hurt him
Then let their friendship come to an end

“Why?” he asked,
“Why?” he cried.
“How had the bond been broken
Hadn’t it been made by chains of love so strong?
Or was it of mere selfishness
A weak thread, a token”

“A proof, a mark, deep inside
To scorn me of my foolish pride
So sharp the tongue
That hurt my soul
I cannot run
I cannot hide”

No more could he stand the pain
A laugh, a cry, a blend of both.
But none could work
None to ease the pain
None to ease the hurt.

Blinded by the tears
Of shame, of fury
He then struck a blow
A fist came down on him later
And then there were more

Blow by blow came down upon him
Those very hands
Those very hands
One’s which had calmed the hurt he got
Were opening those wounds
With added salt.

Thus he fainted
Bloodless, lifeless
Calm and still
Writhing insides now empty, now void
Still not a soul moved
Still not a soul moved

“Why is it dark?
Has the night set in?
Or am I dead,
And gone to heaven
Maybe hell for such a sin.”

“Nay my friend,
You still reside on earth
You have your soul
Your body is healing.
But, forgive me my friend
To hurt you and torment your mind
For I have to tell you
That your vision has gone friend
That you are blind.”

A tear falls and then another
For yet the burden was augmented
The voice was known
Too known to ignore
For to ignore was what he wanted

The voice was familiar
The tone was not
Yet how could it be so?
His friends had turned evil
His friends had turned bad
And the voice….

The voice was of a foe


Found at: http://insatiablemelody.blogspot.com/2007/06/choices-we-all-live-small-lifemuch.html

A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete…

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.



If you don't send this to at least 8 people…..Who cares?

George Carlin

Types of Women Guys Want to Date!

We had heard that only women are choosy when it comes to dating men, here you will discover that men are equally choosy when it comes to choosing the right girl. Here are the types of women men would give their right hand for.

MISS SWEET
Miss Sweet is a genuine person without a bitchy bone in her body. Men find themselves looking forward to spending time with her. Miss Sweets are pretty rare. But if men do find one, they've real treasure on their hands.

MISS STRAIGHTFORWARD
With Miss Straightforward, there are no games, no behaviour based on ridiculous, female-biased advice. Miss Straightforward will pick up the phone and ask you out. Although she may be blunt at times, at least you'll know where you stand.

MISS INDEPENDENT
This is a good woman to find if you don't have a lot of time to invest in a relationship or you're the type of guy who needs a lot of space. She's the type who wants a man in her life, but doesn't need a man in her life. And she certainly isn't looking for men to solve all her problems or blame when things don't go her way.

MISS SEXUAL
Men feel lucky to encounter one of these! Miss Sexual loves men and loves sex and makes no bones about it. She's not selling it, she's not using it as a tool to manipulate men, she just naturally craves it. Men love her because she's a free spirit who's actually honest about her sex drive.

MISS SECURE
Miss Secure accepts herself as she is and is comfortable with her good points, as well as her bad ones. And she feels the same about you. She doesn't need constant attention to shore up a sagging ego and has tons of self esteem. What's more, she'll help boost your ego too.

MISS BEST FRIEND
She's the kind of woman you're totally in sync with, you like the same things, watch the same TV shows, enjoy going to the same places. A word of warning: You have to make your sexual interest known from day one because if she gets it into her head that you are going to be just friends,' it's almost impossible to change her mind.

MISS LOW MAINTENANCE
The rarest of the rare, Miss Low Maintenance is the most atypical of modern women. She really doesn't care about how much money you have. She just likes you for yourself and not for what she can take from you. She's likely to be a true feminist, and will gladly pay her share of the dating expenses. If you can find her, hang on to her for dear life!

Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed.

i didnt get a chance to say....

"i didnt get a chance to say....
that i love you. after all was said and done, i still wanted 2 tell you that. im sorry i hurt you. so sorry. but im more sorry that i didn show you how much i love you..... "
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"Thank you for having something real to say. It's refreshing to read something so simple, yet which evokes such depth of feeling. It's never too late to tell someone how much you love them, even if your lives are heading down different paths. If your special person knew how much you love him/her, it could make a huge difference to how that person moves on, and makes decisions. Maybe you could be the inspiration for that person to do great things, or bring happiness that he/she didn't know was missing. Maybe by telling that person, it could also bring hope for a different future than what is being traveled towards now. You never know. I think it takes a great deal of courage to tell someone how much you love them, and by doing so you can elevate yourself to a higher level no matter if it is reciprocated or not. A weight will be lifted from you, and if you express and give your love without expectation then you have done all you can, and maybe, just maybe you would have made a difference. Best of luck."
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These posts show a situation that happens far too often.. The second post is excellent advice. Better to regret playing a fool and trying again than to always wonder "what if"..

In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

— Viktor E. Frankl

You must forgive those who hurt you

"You must forgive those who hurt you, even if whatever they did to you is unforgivable in your mind. You will forgive them not because they deserve to be forgiven, but because you don't want to suffer and hurt yourself every time you remember what they did to you. It doesn't matter what others did to you. You are going to forgive them because you don't want to feel sick all the time. Forgiveness is for your own mental healing. You will forgive because you feel compassion for yourself. Forgiveness is an act of self-love."

-- Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

A master...

"A master teaches us to accept everything,
to be thankful for good and bad, right and wrong,
friend and enemy, helper and abuser, liberator and oppressor.

A master helps us to forget the dark past
and the future bright with a thousand promises,
and live in the fullness of the present moment.

A master shows us how all of Nature,
every being, every thing - even our enemy -
helps us evolve and attain perfection."


~Amma~

Do You Realize Your Potential?

I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.

-- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

There is no difficulty that enough Love will not conquer

"There is no difficulty that enough Love will not conquer; no disease that enough Love will not heal; no door that enough Love will not open; no gulf that enough Love will not bridge; no wall that enough Love will not throw down; no sin that enough Love will not redeem.

It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble, how hopeless the outlook, how muddled the tangle; how great the mistake. A sufficient realization of Love will dissolve it all. If only you could Love enough you would be the happiest and most powerful being in the world."

-- Emmet Fox

RELATIONSHIPS

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RELATIONSHIPS | Article by Roy Biancalan


Chemistry, though essential, isn't enough. Romance can survive on chemistry, a relationship can't. So one day I sat down at my computer and I got clear on what I wanted, beyond chemistry, in a woman and in the relationship I had with her. I embarked on what I call a conscious way of choosing my life partner. Instead of dating dozens of women hoping to find someone by the sheer law of averages, I stopped dating and got crystal clear on what I wanted. With in a month I met her, and one year later we became engaged!

I'm not promising that if you get clear on who and what you want, that you'll meet "The One" in such a short period of time. Then again, if you go into a restaurant and just sit there, merely looking at the menu, and never communicate to your server what you want, I can promise you that you'll go hungry!

Question 1: Am I compromising any significant desire, dream or direction in my life to be with her?

"There are two questions every man must ask himself. First, 'where am I going?' And secondly, 'who do I want to go with me?' And don't ever get them
reversed!" For a time, I did.

Are you giving up anything really important to you—a life long dream, a core purpose, in order to be with this person? Maybe they don't want children and you

do. But you're madly in love, the chemistry is off the charts!, and so you're trying to convince yourself that having kids isn't that important to you. Or maybe you always wanted to go back to school or start a business or move to the beach, but you're hesitating because following those dreams might be trouble for your relationship.

One of the ways you know that he or she is "The One," is that there is nothing of importance that you are giving up in exchange for being in the relationship. Healthy relationships support the pursuit of dreams. They don't ask, "what's best for the relationship," but rather, "what brings the greatest

aliveness to the individuals in the relationship." Many people believe that compromise is a good thing in a relationship. That's a total lie. Compromise is a red flag. You don't have to abandon your dreams to be with someone. If you do, it's a sign you're with the wrong person!

Question 2: Does she have all, absolutely all of my "deal makers" and none of my "deal breakers"?

This question comes from my favorite relationship authors, Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks. That day at my computer, I got clear on a couple of basics I had to have and would not stand for in a partner. The Hendrick's call them their "Absolute Yes-es" and "Absolute No-s". I think of them as "deal makers" and "deal breakers."

For instance, my primary "deal maker" is having a woman who is completely devoted to her spiritual growth, above all else. Her aliveness is more important than me, her kids, her job—everything. Secondly, I want a woman who takes 100% responsibility for her experiences, problems and emotions. I'm not interested in relating intimately with a blamer or a victim. Thirdly, I want an open woman, one who reveals her thoughts, fears, wants and feelings. And lastly, I want someone committed to a healthy lifestyle. Those were my "deal makers."

My "deal breakers" were easy to identify. One of the benefits of having an ex or two is that you get really clear on what you don't want! My "deal breakers" were women who smoked, even occasionally; women that were sexually disinterested, workaholics, and lastly, women with children under the age of ten. I have no judgment about those issues, they're just not what I want in my life. Again, if any of those things were true, I would end the relationship immediately. That was my new commitment.

With my ex-fiancée, I was fudging on a couple of them. Why? Well, as I've said, there was chemistry. But also, beneath the surface I had a scarcity mindset. Like many people, I thought there was a shortage of women perfectly suited for me. And if you hold that belief, you'll likely overlook something significant, especially if the physical attraction is high. The truth is that there are many men and women that embody what you are looking for. And the universe will bring them to you if you truly want to find "The One" and refuse to settle. It's happened for me. My fiancée meets all, absolutely all of my "deal makers," and none of my "deal breakers."

So, here's the challenging part of this question. You can't fudge on any of your "deal makers" or "deal breakers." Not even one. These are the basics and they are non-negotiable. If he's George Clooney, but snores, if that's a "deal breaker" for you, you have got to cut him loose. If she's Faith Hill and

smokes, again, if that's a "deal breaker," end it immediately.


Question 3: Does the physical intimacy between us have a spiritual quality unlike anything I have ever experienced before?

This is a tricky question and it's very easy to misunderstand. I'm not talking about his or her looks or love-making techniques. This question is about what happens in of each of you—spiritually, when you're with the other. I believe that one of the ways you know someone is "The One" is that your intimate moments feel spiritual not merely physical. Of course sex with your partner may be ravishing or erotic or playful or tenderly romantic. But even in a variety of moods, you sense something spiritual is happening. Your experience is deeper than your body, it touches your core, your essence. Your intimacy opens a kind of spiritual presence in you, a place of openness, oneness and love.

David Deida writes beautifully of the spiritual potential of our sexuality. "As your loving penetrates your partner's depth, and his or her resistances melt, your love meets your partner's. Your openness merges with his or her openness. Together, your loving becomes one. In moments like this, love is beholding love through the eyes of you and your partner. There is no difference, just one love, expressed through two bodies. This is enlightened sex."

All of us are at different points on our spiritual journeys'. So our ability to experience what Deida writes about, the very presence of God through sexual union, will vary depending on our intentions and life-long practices. Yet, sex with "The One," no matter where you are on your spiritual journey, will be

unlike anything you have encountered in your life. Maybe your love making doesn't yet take you to the ends of the universe where you're able to feel oneness with God, but you know that something special is happening between the two of you, something bigger than you, something wonderfully and spiritually unexplainable. If so, he or she is "The One."

Question 4: Does this person, and the relationship I have with them, inspire me to be a better man?

Remember the scene in the movie, As Good As It Gets where Helen Hunt is asking Jack Nicholson for a compliment? Jack plays a character who is an obsessive compulsive moron and he can't seem to come up with anything positive to say about her. She gets frustrated and is about to walk out of the restaurant, when he suddenly blurts out, "You make me want to be a better man." She was breathless, dumbfounded and floored by what he said. Being in a relationship was having an incredible impact on him. If there was ever a phrase that screams, "You're the one for me!" it is this one: "You make me want to be a better man"—or woman.

Since I used to be a professional golfer, I call this the "Tiger Woods" effect. I imagine that if I was to play golf with Tiger (I've played in tournaments with him, but never in the same group), I would really want to be at my best. I would really want to "show up." He would make me want to be a better golfer.

Does being in a relationship with your partner have the "Tiger Woods" effect on you? Is the relationship good for your overall development as a person and as a spiritual being? Are you growing, not as a result of the relationship, but in the midst of it? Your relationship is a kind of "soil" in which both of you are planted. Is the "soil" of your relationship producing growth and life? I notice that since being with my fiancée, I have made some incredible shifts in my life and career. I'm committed to my spiritual path like never before. My purpose is clear. I'm taking risks in my life that are challenging me and bringing incredible aliveness to my spirit. The bottom line is that good things are happening in me while I'm around her.

Don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying that it's our partner's job to bring about our personal evolution. That's your job and it's my job. I'm not advocating co-dependence. My point is that being around my fiancée makes me want to be my best, she makes me want to be a better man. Since you've been dating, do you notice yourself dreaming, growing, expanding and becoming the person you know you can be?

Question 5: Would I be completely happy, if from this moment on, nothing about her or our relationship would ever change?

I've saved the most critical question for last. What if nothing ever changes about your partner? What if, in say, five years, he or she is exactly the same? What if he never gets better at communicating his feelings? What if she never loses weight? What if his work habits never change? What if he never makes more money? What if she never becomes more disciplined with credit cards? What if he never drinks less? Just for a moment, ask yourself, what if he or she never changes? Is your current reality something you authentically celebrate?

If you are in love with someone's potential, you have got problems. First of all, to think that they should be different is arrogant on your part. They are perfect the way they are. They may not be perfect for you, but they're perfect nonetheless. Second, people never change because others want them to. You

can't be in love with fantasy. You must be in love with reality, the person they are now.

The primary reason I know my fiancée is "The One," is that for the first time in my relational life, I am not in love with who I hope my woman will become. I'm in love with her, now. I love who she is and everything about her, right now. (This may be because I'm finally in love with myself and not my own

potential, but that's a different article!) It's not easy to admit this, but in all my previous relationships, I loved conditionally. I was always hoping or wanting something to change about them. In past relationships, I was hoping the woman in my life would become more interested in sex, or lose weight or take an interest in spiritual things. I didn't really love them. I loved who I thought they should be.

Are you in love with your partner or their potential? Do you celebrate at the thought of nothing changing? Let go of hoping your partner will get thinner, smarter, richer, sexier, happier, or cheaper than they are right now. Assume they won't. Assume nothing will change. Are they still "The One?"

Conclusion


I hear a voice inside me that says it shouldn't be this hard to identify "The One." Shouldn't we just know? Don't you just know when you've found the right person? Well, the high number of divorces that take place within the first three years of marriage says "NO." And in my personal experience, the answer is absolutely "NO!" Chemistry can cloud your thinking and it is not a solid foundation for a long term relationship. But if you get past passion, personality and pheromones and commit to a conscious approach to finding your life partner, by asking yourself these five questions, you'll not only end up with an incredible relationship, but you'll also save yourself a lot of heartbreak and misery.

To dream anything that you want to dream. That is the beauty of the human mind.

"To dream anything that you want to dream. That is the
beauty of the human mind. To do anything that you want
to do. That is the strength of the human will. To trust
yourself to test your limits. That is the courage to
succeed."

-- Bernard Edmonds

We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.

"We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us."

-- Joseph Campbell

The purpose of a written constitution is

"[The purpose of a written constitution is] to bind up the several branches of government by certain laws, which, when they transgress, their acts shall become nullities; to render unnecessary an appeal to the people, or in other words a rebellion, on every infraction of their rights, on the peril that their acquiescence shall be construed into an intention to surrender those rights."

-- Thomas Jefferson, Notes on Virginia [1782]